Is the Third time the Charm?

Is the Third time the Charm?

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Well,  as fall has sort of come into full swing, minus the few days of Indian Summer.  I am multi tasking and doing lots of things.   I do ask myself all the time, when is it the right time?  When do  I ask those important questions in a relationship?  I think I came up with my own answers by going through the process of DATING, and oh what a process it is.   I have come to the conclusions that if I go out with the same guy at least 3 times, then the 4th date can become more meanful in many ways.  Not that I am going to bombard him with questions, but I know that I can stir up a conversation , peak an interest? See if we are on the same page.
 Its so important that my priorities are handled correctly.  I learned a long time ago that it takes a long time to get to know someone!   Possibly my old ways have determined my fate, if I didn’t have that experience than what would determine my future.  If my marriage didn’t change direction then I wouldn’t be where I am today. Maybe I would have been the one to leave , Fate plays such a strong role in everyday.   I wouldn’t have learned how to fall in love, and fall out of love.
The one constant is that life is forever changing.  Now I just need to work on that merry go round and learn how to stay on.
4 Comments
  • Lisa Sciara
    Posted at 09:33h, 12 November Reply

    Don’t do it!!! Stay single, date or not, enjoy YOUR life!

  • Mousie McCall
    Posted at 23:57h, 25 November Reply

    Happy birthday Ramona…you seem like a true gf, always there for others…love that

  • Diane C
    Posted at 13:31h, 04 December Reply

    Ramona I bloody love you! They are only just showing the episodes where Avery goes off to college here in the UK, we are so far behind! I have read some of what has happened in your life on the internet, I do hope you are happy and being kind to yourself, surround yourself with good people and you can’t go far wrong. Lots of love, Diane xx

  • Jessica Schreiber
    Posted at 05:05h, 19 August Reply

    I must say, in the first few seasons of RHONY, I adored you but had moments where I wasn’t always happy with your approach to certain situations & the hurtful things you would occasional say to the other ladies. (I’ve since learned that you are so kindhearted & can sometimes mess up the delivery of what your saying) Like you, I had an awful childhood. It lead me to get married at 16 years old! We waited until our 6th year of marriage to have our first son. We then had another son, 3 years after our first. I will be turning 38 years old on the 30th of August. I am still married (May 9th was our 22nd wedding anniversary) I wish I could say that life has been easy, amazing, perfect! Rather, it’s been ever changing, evolving, and often challenging. I was fortunate to finish highscho (despite getting married my Jr. year, and promptly started college. I earned a Bachelor’s degree and eventually went back & got an associates degree. I’ve had a decent carrer and even started a small besiness 6 years ago. However, 3 years ago I became quite ill. I eventually had to stop working & sadly, had to let go of my business too. I have a string of Auto Immune Diseases, Ulcerative Colitis, & Lupus being the major ones out of a total of 7 auto immune diseases. Sadly, it has drastically changed my entire life. From my finances, my relationships with friemds & family, & unfortunately, my marriage is now suffering. As you know, marriage is constant work and can go from amazing to awful in a short amount of time. My husband blindsided me with his actions & I’m still unsure how things will end up for us. He left our home for two weeks over the 4th of July & after I caught him talking to a few different girls, he returned home with a promise to start marriage counseling. However, it’s been 7 weeks and if I don’t make the appointments or effort, he makes no attenpt to change or fix the situation. I’ve been watching the current season of RHONY and all of you ladies have given me strength I didn’t even know I had. I decided to not let my husbands problems hinder my growth & happiness! I have devoted my entire adult life to him & since becoming sick, my entire perspective on life, especially how valuable and precious time is, has drastically changed. I am prpud to say that I am registered to start my Master’s degree in Psychology with a concentration in mental health, marriage & family, and addictions counseling. I know that the loss of your marriage was extremely difficult and painful. But, you have shown me that it is possible to start over. No matter what age you are, what your finamces are like, even living with Auto Immune Diseases. I have the power to choose my own happiness and future. With or without my husband! I can’t imagine having my marriage end on national TV with millions of people watching, judging. You are truly an inspiration and one strong woman! Thank you for sharing a small part of your life with us every season! Also, thank ypu for showing us that anyone can become whatever they choose to be. Our childhoods, marriages, even carriers do not define us. We are ultimately in control of our destiny & happiness!

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